In the gym today I was talking to a regular and she said that she was glad the first couple weeks of January are over and when I asked why she said that all of the "New Year's Resolution" people had given up and the gym wasn't as busy anymore. Well, she is right in that the gym is not as busy as it had been but I thought what a negative thing to say! Sadly, it is a very true fact though and I know this because I used to do the same thing! I was out of the gate running hard towards my goal for a week or so but then my wheels fell off for some reason.
I have been thinking about it all morning and I was trying to remember what it was that made me stop either going to the gym or dieting or trying to eat better or whatever my goal was. I have no outstanding memories as to the reasons why. I didn't have anything major take place in my life. I just stopped. Gave up on myself. Maybe I didn't see the results that I wanted to see quickly enough? I don't really remember. What that tells me is that it wasn't important enough to make me lose track!
I am here to tell you that I don't care what may or may not have happened. Your kids don't care, your husband or wife don't care... get it?! Just get back up and get back to it! YOU deserve it!!! YOU deserve it for YOU!!! If you started this year off "on the right foot" but didn't stay on track then take some time to yourself to think about why! Don't beat yourself up about it just ask yourself why!
When you think about it, be honest with yourself! There is a very good chance that your answer is going to be because you have low self esteem. You do not have faith in yourself and your abilities. You have allowed yourself and/or other people to question your self-worth.
The effects of low self-esteem can create an incredibly negative impact in your life. Not only in your personal life but in your relationships with others. One of the many effects of low self esteem is that you become somewhat paralyzed by fear of rejection or failure. You avoid situations and challenges and may experience an inability to make decisions because of the low opinion you have of yourself.
The impact on your relationships can include making intimacy difficult if not impossible. Because of the lack of intimacy, people can become aggressive or even passive with others. Many times, people with low self esteem become defensive and behave in many ways to avoid a healthy and sincere relationship.
You can act negatively not only towards yourself but towards other people, maybe even people that you don't know or worse, people that mean the most to you! People with low self esteem or a poor self image act this way because they feel worthless or less desirable to friends and family.
This is a cycle that is all too real for SO many women... again... I know this because I was there too! I didn't expect enough from myself! I allowed my feelings and my low self esteem to bring me down for years. I went through relationships both with my girl friends and with the guys that I dated that were unhealthy! I didn't deserve that! YOU don't deserve it!
It may be hard for you to admit these things to yourself but if you DO admit them to yourself then you can begin taking the steps you need to in order to change this part of your life! If you are in a negative relationship or you have negative people around you or you are not challenging yourself you need to make a change! I promise that it is SO worth it. It won't necessarily be easy but when was easy ever fun?
The feelings that you will begin to experience when you challenge yourself and then meet that goal are phenomenal!!! You will feel like there is nothing that can stop you! Like no one can get in your way! You will break through walls of restraint that have been holding you down and holding you back. Most importantly, you will break down the walls that are burying you and locking you away from a truly honest, open relationship with yourself and with everyone around you that care about you and love you!
You will be astonished by the support you will get, the glow you will have, the energy that you will start feeling, the new things that you decide you want to do and the new YOU that you will FINALLY find!! You will FINALLY realize that you are worth SO MUCH MORE than you have given yourself credit for up to this point!!
PLEASE consider making changes for yourself! There are so many people that are behind you and that will support you! None of us care if you are a size 2 or if you have a six pack or even that you eat perfectly every second of every day. It is NOT about that.... it is about your general health and well being and that doesn't end with your physical being! Your mental well being and your inner-most thoughts about yourself are what show through.
Courage is like a muscle.
We strengthen it with use.
~ Ruth Gordon ~
We strengthen it with use.
~ Ruth Gordon ~
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